C. J. Mahaney, “The Idol Factory,” Pt. 2
Husband and wife — you desire to have a spouse that relates to you with respect, etc. Is that a wrong desire? No. But it’s not a need. And it can become a lust, if when your spouse doesn’t respond as you desire, you in craving and demanding begin to fight and quarrel. It is possible to live with a spouse who is disobeying and not concerned with your welfare and still have your deepest needs met, because only God can meet the deepest needs of your heart. This is tremendously liberating.
Words of Grace 