What submission is not

1. Simply or singularly a marriage issue
2. Degrading
3. Silent
4. Fearful
5. Joyless
6. Stifling
7. Dumb
8. Weak
9. Automatic
10. Self-Focused

Read the entire post and the brief explanations at The Resurgence.

A number of years ago John Piper put together a similar list in his sermon, “Women of Valor for Non-Promise Keepers.”  He defined submission in these ways in that message:

What then is submission? It is the disposition to follow a husband’s authority and an inclination to yield to his leadership. It is an attitude that says, “I delight for you to take the initiative in our family. I am glad when you take responsibility for things and lead with love. I don’t flourish when you are passive and I have to make sure the family works.” But the attitude of Christian submission also says, “It grieves me when you venture into sinful acts and want to take me with you. You know I can’t do that. I have no desire to resist you. On the contrary, I flourish most when I can respond creatively and joyfully to your lead; but I can’t follow you into sin, as much as I love to honor your leadership in our marriage. Christ is my King.”